Yes, I know that’s an old rhyme for a bride on her wedding day, however I think it applies pretty nicely to my process of getting ready to be a bridesmaid when I attended my brother-in-law’s wedding this past September.
I was totally thrilled when I heard the news that there would be a wedding in my husband’s family, although a bit less so when I realized I only had two months before we’d be getting on a plane and I’d need to have a bridesmaid’s dress to bring with me. Could I have bought one myself? Of course. As a sewist, though, such an idea seemed nearly incomprehensible. Where do people go to buy clothes these days anyways? I hadn’t purchased an article of clothing that wasn’t lounge or underwear in years, let alone a formal gown.
So, I steadfastly set to making my own dress. The colour for the bridal party was baby blue, so I ordered some viscose crepe from L’Oiseau Fabrics and chose out a pattern from my small collection of Burda Magazines. From the photo, it looked like a stunning, elegant dress that would be perfect for a special event such as this one.
Although I was ordering the fabric online based on a not-super-clear photo, it turned out to be the perfect colour. I could hardly wait to get started. Until, that is, photos starting popping up in our bridesmaids’ WhatsApp group. Elegant gowns made up of layers of organza and chiffon – much fancier than my matte and drapey viscose crepe, which was probably a more appropriate choice for everyday wear. I didn’t know what to do. I was really starting to feel that the stress was building up, but I went ahead and made a toile of the Burda pattern anyways.
The fit of the Burda pattern right off the bat was actually fantastic. I just didn’t feel that the fabric I had purchased would do it justice. I decided at that point that I had to find a fancier fabric – a lace, sequinned fabric, or embroidered mesh that I could overlay onto the fabric I had already bought. I got to searching online at all the Canadian fabric stores I could think of (and trust me, I could think of a lot), but it turns out not so many online shops here carry gown-worthy fabrics (if you know of any, do let me know below in the comments!). I’m also lucky to live in a city full of fabric stores – none of which (other than Fabricland) were open in the evenings after I finished work or on Sundays, the only day of the week I was available to shop during daytime hours (whyyyyy????).
There was one new-to-me shop – City Choice Textiles in North York – which, based on their Instagram, seemed to be a treasure trove of laces and embroidered fabrics, and happened to be open until 7PM on weekdays (checking their hours now, they also now appear to have open hours on Sundays). One day I managed to finish work early and was able to make it up there for a visit. It really was a treasure trove (and the prices were amazing!), but amongst all the glitzy bolts, I found nothing in the colour I needed. I felt extremely disappointed, as it really seemed like if I were to find anything anywhere, this would be the place.
I was really starting to feel like I’d have to resort to buying a dress. I was at 3 weeks until our flight, and I still didn’t even have fabric.
My next plan of action took a bit of convincing my husband to do the shopping for me. He works downtown some days, so I asked if he would be willing to stop by Leo’s Textiles on Queen Street and do some shopping. He was hesitant and I was desperate, and anyways I had enough confidence in his eye for colour to choose something nice. He sent me a series of photos alongside a swatch of the viscose crepe I wanted to put underneath, and he came across some beautiful blue silk chiffon. I told him to grab 4 yards of it and take it home for me.
Honestly, he chose the perfect colour and fabric. Am I lucky or what?
Next I had to figure out what type of dress I was going to make – the Burda gown was too complex to do with two layers (and the silk chiffon was much too sheer without a lining). I figured I’d keep it simple – a bodice that I already knew fit me, some flutter sleeves, and a simple gathered skirt with an A-line lining (to reduce bulk at the waist). I wouldn’t have to make a toile and I wouldn’t have to try any fancy new techniques aside from getting used to sewing chiffon (which is rather delicate and sometimes does not appreciate going through the sewing machine – spoiler: sewing the chiffon actually turned out to be the least of my worries).
I really Frankenstein’d the pieces for this dress together. I started with the bodice of McCall’s 8032, which I knew I liked the fit of, and the skirt from Butterick 6138, and by now it’s been long enough that I can’t even remember which sleeves I altered to create the bell/flutter sleeves, but I think they were from the McCall’s 8038. I was going to use the A-line skirt from Gertie’s Ultimate Dress Book for the skirt lining (which I had used previously for a bridesmaid dress – also in light blue – but alas, I grew a bit since then), but once I drafted it to be floor length I saw the huge amount of fabric that it would actually use, and realized it would be way too heavy to wear.
Instead I went with the skirt for McCall’s 8038, which is more fitted and mermaid-skirt-y. This ended up being a good decision, I think.
I got to cutting everything out. I used tissue paper laid out underneath the chiffon to make cutting it out a bit easier. I used nearly every last inch of the chiffon (lengthwise, anyways), and carefully underlined it by hand with the viscose crepe (which I still had plenty of, thinking I was going to use it with the yardage-gobbling Burda dress). This was tricky, as the chiffon bubbled and fluttered with the slightest breeze that hit it.
I finally got to sewing up the bodice and that was when I hit my next road block. I tried on the bodice – and, well, let’s just say that the darts were especially pointy. I was crestfallen. I could not wear such a, erm, pointy dress to a wedding, let alone set foot outside in it. I decided to troubleshoot the dart situation, and found many sewing articles addressing that very issue. I seam ripped the bodice darts several times (not at all an easy thing to do with delicate silk chiffon) and sewed them over and over again. I changed the curve of the dart, how I sewed the tip of it, whether I back stitched or didn’t back stitch or tied knots or didn’t – every time they came out pointy. I figured it boiled down to the bubbly nature of the chiffon and there was no getting around it.
I was pretty much out of fabric. I didn’t have much time left. Starting over wasn’t really much of an option. The stress was really starting to set in. That’s when I decided to pull out the big guns – I was going to convert the bodice to a princess seam bodice. I used the bodice pattern and drafted it into princess seam pattern pieces. I used the existing bodice pieces for the larger centre portions of the princess seam pieces, and I scraped together the smaller side pieces out of the largest scraps I could find left of the silk chiffon.
And by golly! I did it. The princess seams were so much better. Not perfect – no. The chiffon still bubbled in places, and if you look closely, you can see the holes left from seam ripping the darts out. But I felt happy when I put it on, and that was enough.
The skirt was relatively easy after all that. I used French seams for it, so the seams would look nice as they were visible through the sheer fabric. The zipper area was tricky, as it’s hard to install an invisible zipper and also do a French seam. So, I did a sneaky thing and used the pieces of the fabric that were cut on the selvedge (which is already “finished”, technically!) so I wouldn’t have to worry about it finishing that seam.
I made the sleeves out of two layers of the chiffon rather than a layer of chiffon and a layer of viscose for a more ethereal look. I cut one layer shorter than the other so that the layers were apparent. They came out kind of uneven (because that chiffon is just so darn SLIPPERY and shifty) but at that point it was the kind of imperfection I could put up with.
I hemmed the whole thing and inserted a waist stay to help hold up the skirt, which was a little on the heavy side, and it was finally done! I ended up later adding another row of hooks to the waist stay so that I could make it even snugger, allowing for any possible weight fluctuation. I also added some ribbons tacked down at the waist that could go on the hanger to provide a bit of extra support when the dress is hanging in a closet for longer periods of time.
To accessorize, my sister-in-law lent me the perfect silver heels which fit just right, and I had a fascinator from Lilliput Hats which I bought for my sister’s wedding and just happened to be the perfect colour to go with it.
After the long flight and before the wedding, I gave the dress a good press (how lucky was I that the apartment where we were staying had a fresh new iron?) and it was good to go.
Honestly, I was so happy with how it came out in the end. I felt like an absolute princess. The fabric was so wispy and floaty. The fit was elegant but comfortable. After all the stress and worrying, I was so glad with how it turned out. I got lots of compliments throughout the night, and people could hardly believe I had made it myself.
Here are some awkwardly-cropped photos from the photographer since I have no other full-length photos of me in the dress and didn’t want to include other family members without their consent (photo credit goes to Shmuel Diamond Photography). Not sure why I ended up in the same spot in every family photo but okay! I chose the one on the right because I like how you can see the flowy skirt blowing in the wind, hehe.
Anyways, that was a lot of talk about one dress! Honestly it was all a bit stressful getting such a big project done with a time crunch, and during the process it really seemed like all I could think or talk about was this dress (do other sewists experience the same thing? No?). In the end, I’m so glad it worked out and I could float around for the evening in such a special dress 🙂
Thanks for reading the first post I’ve written in a very long time 🙂
Please let me know if you’ve ever made a special garment for a special occasion that wasn’t quite as easy as you thought it would be! Did it all turn out in the end?
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I made a light rose pink bridesmaid dress for my daughter…5 piece bodice with princess seams…2 months, 3 toiles, she kept dropping weight, the wedding was coming up, the pressure was on! In the end she was happy and looked beautiful but never wished to wear the dress again. I dyed it a beautiful soft grey to make it less bridesmaidy and donated it. I sometimes wonder who might have it now….
Congratulations on getting across your finish line with such a beautiful piece to wear and enjoy!
Hi Marie! Wow, yes it’s so hard when there’s a deadline! It’s too bad that she doesn’t want to wear it again, but I get it – I don’t know when I’d wear mine again either! I’m not quite sure what to do with it. I hope someone is out there enjoying yours which you worked so hard to make.
Thank you so much and thanks for reading!
My Very Sweet Girl, Here you have amazed me once again. Love, love all the photos of the dress and also of the two of you, handsome couple to say the least. The only thing missing is a very classic neck piece of a few diamonds, which I must show you. Must jump and make my gumdrop cake for Christmas, then off for my walk, cold, cold day what with the wind. H/Nana and Papa Ned and Leona Kiez
Thank you so much, Nana ❤ You heard all about it all summer, so I'm glad you're getting to see how it turned out! Thanks for reading my piece 🙂 Love you ❤
Your dress is beautiful! Definitely worth the stress. You look stunning. I did a similar thing for a friend’s wedding but had to do some inventive placement of the pattern pieces. It was some fabric my mum had bought me to make the dress but it had a very striking pattern on it and I only had 3m. I think I pinned and unpinned the pattern pieces half a dozen times to get them to fit on the fabric and pattern match the seams. I did it though and felt great wearing it. I think when you have made something you feel so much better in yourself .
Hi Angela! Thank you so much! I have definitely done that with very special fabrics – it almost feels like you’re never going to get it to fit, but when you finally get it right it is so satisfying! I’m so glad it worked out for you 😀 I totally agree that it’s just a different feeling wearing something you worked hard to make.
Thank you so much for reading ❤
It came our beautifully! I love the colour.
When I was a student, I sewed a dress for our end-of-year dinner (cotton tablecloth for the top, satin tablecloth for the bottom,) promised myself it would only take a few days, and then stayed up until about 4:00 a.m. finishing it. It was classically stressful/fun. A few years later, the top of it became my rapidly-sewn wedding dress, because we wound up getting married in a field on three days’ notice (April 2020.) Those are my only two time-crunch sews, and they were so stressful that I don’t want to do it again!
Thanks Meira! Wow, yes, two is more than enough if you ask me! Well done getting your wedding dress done in 3 days?!?!! 😮